[moved from my LiveJournal]


after all that has been going on, my mom, dad, and i had a long talk last night telling him all we did during his hospital time, he does not remember anything but the the last couple days of it all... we have had a bonding experience that i could not begin to explain or describe, so, i will not bother... check miss mary's lj for some of it... maybe when it is all over, i will post excerpts from emails that i sent and received during it all...
so, anyway, this morning, my dad said it was time to give me something he had planned for years to give me, but, had never told me about it... it is his father's wedding ring... his father gave it to him and now he is giving it to me... i said i felt bad because it seemed more logical to give it to my brother, jeff, because he has a son to pass it to, since i plan to never to have kids, but, he said he wanted me, the first-born son, to have it...
i am floored... i don't know yet what i will do with it... obviously, my wedding ring is totalled and i want another, but, it is not the same and, more practically, it does not fit my wedding ring finger anyway... apparently my grandfather had larger hands than me, it only fits on my largest finger, my right middle finger...

not every day you get an heirloom, and i am very thankful he gave it to me... the three of us have been through a lot recently and i am very moved to know that he sees all this that has gone on as so important as to decide this was a time to give me something he was waiting on the right time for for thirty years...

an experience i will never be able to fully relate... reminds me of two lines... tom hanks in 'saving private ryan', about how he doesn't know how he will ever tell his wife "days like today" and the american beauty line, "you have no idea what i am talking about, but don't worry; you will"...

hopefully, everyone is involved enough in their family, at some point or another, to experience something like this...

i could probably come up with something more meaningful to say, but, i have had two drinks and i don't drink, so, they went straight to my head, so, i will leave it at that...